Entering into a new relationship can be scary, especially if you’re not fully healed from your last one. If you have confidence issues from your past relationships, but you don’t want to carry that baggage into your new one, you’ll have to take some steps to ensure both your body and your mind are in the right place to have the confidence you desire. Here’s how you can do that.
1. Get Your Body in Shape
The best thing you can do to regain your confidence wit new a partner physically is to get your body in shape (if you haven’t been already). Start eating healthier foods and exercising regularly. The better shape your body is in, the more confidence you’ll have both in and outside of the bedroom. Flatten your belly, do some cardio to build up your endurance, and tone your arms and legs. You might also want to do some exercises to shape and lift your butt.
2. Try Some Role Playing
Role-playing can take you out of your own body, giving you the power to be someone else. So choose a character you think would turn your partner on — maybe a sexy French maid or a professional cheerleader. Sexy Halloween costumes can make role-playing fun and easy. Role-playing with your new partner can build confidence and trust in each other and allow you to let go of your inhibitions. Sexy costumes from 3Wishes can help you get there. Start browsing the lingerie collection to see what you and your partner might be into.
3. Let Go of the Past
Whatever you do, remember that the past is the past. Avoid comparing your new relationship to your old one in any way. This is a new beginning — a fresh start that provides a chance to make new memories and new experiences. So leave the past behind and realize that there’s no reason for you not to be confident in where you are with who you’re with right now. You can do that by creating a positive mantra to counter painful thoughts, practicing mindfulness, engaging in self-care and being gentle with yourself.
4. Pick Up a Book on Confidence
If your confidence issues lie within your mind, you might need to change your mindset. And one of the best ways to do that is by reading a chapter of a book every day until your confidence begins to grow. Find a book that resonates with you and the specific issues that you’re dealing with. Popular books include “You Are a Badass” by Jen Sincero and “Radical Self-Love” by Gala Darling, but there are tons out there for you to choose from. Start browsing for some that speak to your soul.
5. Avoid Having an End Goal in Mind
Pressure is one thing that can kill a relationship fast so that’s the last thing you want to put on your relationship, especially a new one. Try to go into things without an end goal in mind. Just enjoy the time you spend with your new partner and try not to have any expectations. Having too many expectations could set you up for failure before you even get started.
Building Your Confidence in All of the Right Ways
Regaining your confidence with a new partner is a necessity if you want to be successful in your new relationship. Don’t make your partner deal with issues you carried over from your last relationship. Let loose, have fun, and start rebuilding confidence physically and mentally by using the above tips.
